Most of this is adopted from a sermon I heard from Pastor Kimberly Jones Pothier and I have expanded on it and added some to it. It was so good that I wanted to share it with you. Women aren’t the
only ones who get abused, it works both ways.
-They isolate you from family and friends. They want to keep you away from those who can speak into your life and see things that you can’t see. They want to control you with fear and intimidation.
-They have issues of jealousy. They are jealous of your friends, your kids, your dreams, your desires, your anointing and gifts of God.
-Arguments tend to escalate quickly. Every day common conversations turn into arguments. It’s hard to have an “adult” conversation, without raising their voice, accusing, cussing or threatening.
- You are nervous around them and afraid of them. You worry about how they will react over certain decisions you make or things you say. you really feel.
- There are constant put downs, always belittling what you do or how you feel. They make you feel small and unimportant, worthless at times. They make fun of you to others and talk about you behind your back. They are always justifying their actions to others and telling people all the “bad” things you do.
-You go out of your way to make them happy, but it’s never good enough.
- You find yourself just staying silent, not speaking up, just to keep the peace.
- You start believing that you are the problem
- You feel trapped; like there is no way out of the
- You start believing you are the problem. They blame you and tell you that YOU are the problem. They intimidate you and cause fear to rise up inside you.
- They act one way in public and totally different behind closed doors.
If you can identify with any of these, then I suggest you pray to God and ask Him for wisdom and seek Godly counsel. Search yourself and ask God what you need to change in yourself first. Ask Him to set you free and heal those wounds inside of you so you can help others. Ask God to soften their heart and open their eyes to the truth and set you free from rejection and approval addiction. Jesus came to give us life and life abundantly. He came to set us free from fear and bondage and to heal the broken hearted and set the captives free. God can heal the situation if both parties will humble themselves and submit to God and allow Him to do what needs to be done in their lives.
Pastor of The House of the Living God